The time has come to give a simple explanation to anyone who wants to get stuck into the blues.
I’m not talking about “Why you should hate yourself.”
I’m talking about why you should stop blaming yourself.
Here’s my idea: If you’re not getting better and your blues isn’t improving, blame yourself.
You can’t blame yourself for the blues’ problems.
It doesn’t make sense.
You know the old saying: “A man who cannot blame his own actions on external circumstances is condemned to live with his sins.”
But if you can blame yourself, you can’t live with your sins.
If you can say to yourself: I’m doing a good job, I’m helping my wife, I’ve had a good week, I love her, I don’t want to be depressed anymore, I have an easy life, I got good friends, I think I’m a good wife, etc., then you can have a pretty good life.
But if the answer to your blues problem is you’re getting worse and the reason you’re feeling depressed is because you’re blaming yourself, then you’re living with your own sins.
And I’ll bet you’ve heard this from your parents, teachers, the church, and even other people.
If your blues is so bad that it hurts you, then blame yourself and stop blaming your blues.
Here are a few things you can do: Stop blaming yourself If you have a hard time being optimistic or optimistic enough to think things will get better, then don’t blame the blues at all.
I’ll give you a couple of examples.
One is when you’re working on a project and you’re just getting started.
You don’t know what you’re going to get.
You’re still in the early stages of it, so you’re thinking about things.
So you think, “I can’t wait to get started.”
But then, when you get to the point where you’re starting to see results, your mind gets distracted and your ideas just go to pieces.
So when you go to bed, you wake up to an empty room.
You wake up and think, Okay, I should probably be getting up early tomorrow, so I’ll go check out the work that I’m still working on.
But then you see the same thing again and the same idea pops into your head.
So, when it does, you’re like, “No, I can’t do that.
I have to take a break and think about what I’m going to do.”
You think about the next day.
You start work again.
And then you wake back up to a room full of people who have never worked on anything before.
You look around and you see they’ve all been working on the same project and they’re all tired.
You can get frustrated and angry and want to leave.
But when you look around, you see that your friends have been working hard too.
You see that you’re the only one who’s feeling depressed.
And you realize, “Oh, you know what?
I’m just not feeling well.
I should just go home and go to sleep.”
So instead of thinking, “Let’s do this project,” you look at the work as a whole and say, “OK, I’ll do it.” You don